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Anger management therapy that makes a real difference.

Offering a solution focused approach to manage the triggers to anger in more positive ways.

Anger management specialist.



Paul Allenby offers professional, friendly and practical anger management counselling that effectively helps his clients develop awareness of their anger triggers and take full responsibility for them.


Rather than just talk about what triggers negative responses … we will work together to develop practical skills so you can step back from your triggers rather than being automatically reactive to them.


The therapy provided is solution focused in the here and now without needlessly dwelling on the past. 



It’s not anger that needs managing … it’s what triggers anger is what we work on!



Paul often says to his clients that anger is what you might do but it’s not what the problem is - it’s the triggers. These may include:


  • Stress
  • Negative thoughts and false interpretations
  • Irritation and frustration
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Anxiety
  • When things don’t go your way or when expectations are not met
  • When you’re not being understood or heard


This is just a selection of the more common triggers. Whatever triggers a negative response from you, we will work together to create effective solutions to be in much better control.


Paul Allenby is an experienced therapist with 23+ years experience.



Paul has been providing private anger management counselling since 1999 and has helped over 2500 private clients during this time.


The feedback Paul constantly receives is that his clients appreciate the practical approach of developing practical skills rather than talking about feelings and emotions or dwelling on the past.


Paul is not a general therapist offering a counselling therapy for every type of problem people experience.


Paul has specialised in two main areas of therapy - anger management therapy and marriage and relationship counselling.

Request a callback and talk to Paul to discuss how his practical approach to anger management therapy can help you create positive change.



If you'd like to have a chat with Paul, fill in your details below.


He will initially contact you by text message, WattsApp or email to arrange booking a free introductory Zoom call.


This call will be to discuss your needs from therapy, how Paul's personal approach can work for you, how the therapy is delivered and of course the costs involved.

You will experience immense benefit from Paul’s experience if you:


  • Easily loses your temper in frustrating situations.


  • Comes across as annoyed when things don’t go your way.


  • Has a tendency to act defensively or “bite people’s head off.”


  • Criticises and judge others.


  • Acts impatiently, frustrated and irritated when you don’t feel in control, heard or listened to.


  • Sulks or act “off” when you’re unhappy with someone.


  • Avoids people when you’re upset.


  • Acts sarcastically or rude to others.



And guess what?


Our anger management counselling sessions are bespoke to your own individual needs and desired outcomes.


Because of the practical and forward focused nature of how our sessions work, you can start learning how to step back from your anger triggers right from our very first session together.


So what is the therapeutic approach?

This is a really important question and one that’s often asked. 



As mentioned above, anger management therapy is unique to each individual and as such, so is the therapy provided.


Paul has trained and used many therapeutic models in order to be able to provide his bespoke therapy. These models include:


  • Cognitive behavioural therapy
  • Mindfulness approaches
  • Personal coaching
  • Counselling


These models all have their value and are effectively utilised to give clients the best possible therapy to achieve the outcomes they desire.


So … not one approach fits all then?


Absolutely not and that’s why Paul describes his therapeutic approach as bespoke. He is able to adapt his vast experience to achieve the best results to meet his clients needs.


Paul is always happy to talk to any new perspective client anytime to discuss how his anger management therapy works but most importantly how it can be of immense benefit to you.


Would you like to have an informal chat with Paul to discuss how his personal and bespoke approach could help you?



If you'd like to discuss with Paul how the therapy works and how it can have a positive impact for you, please fill in the form below to request a callback.


As soon as he receives your message, Paul will make contact with you via text, WattsApp or email to arrange a free introductory call.


Paul likes to make sure your initial contact can be as personal as possible so he likes to have this initial chat a face to face call with Zoom.

Telephone: 07584 492254

Hear what others have to say about their therapy

“I’m very happy with the results. Being able to learn with the online resources have helped me manage ‘me’ when I feel the onset of negative feelings.”

Jane Faber

Stevenage

“Taking this therapy has been invaluable for me. I'm able to successfully calm my tense feelings with the mindfulness practices introduced in the course.”

Matthew Taylor

St. Albans

“I have learned to recognise my triggers and take responsibility for how I react to them. I now feel calmer and more relaxed in those situations where I previously would react with anger.”

Simon Jackson

Sandy

“Learning to be more present has had a positive impact on my relationships at home. I now recognise where and how to take a step back and let the moment pass through.”

Susan Campbell

Welwyn

Anger management counselling that focuses on the present and the future without needlessly dwelling on the past.

Email Paul to request a callback so we can have a chat to discuss the benefits you can achieve from our personal therapy together.

A tried and tested approach - how we will work together to create change.



In your first session Paul is going to listen to you intently to discover the challenges you are facing with anger management and what you hope to achieve from our therapy together.


Paul guarantees you that even from this very first session you will already start the process of awareness and what you can do about your responses in anger triggering moments.



In this very first session we will collaboratively work together to create a plan for change - here you will get a full understanding of what it means to create an effective toolbox of skills for change



Focusing on the hear and now without needlessly dwelling on the past.



It’s understandable when people start therapy that they want to see change as quickly as possible and you can be sure that we will hit the road running right from your very first session.


While it’s important to get some background of your past, we will only do this to identify how certain events or ongoing communication styles affect the present.



Trust Paul when he says that talking about the past keeps you stuck in the past - focus on the present and the future and the eyes widen and the willingness to take responsibility for your actions increases.   



In our first few sessions we will move quickly to establish much improved awareness of your triggers and work on strategies and coping mechanisms to be in much better control



A collaboration for change.


Paul describes his approach to anger management therapy as a collaboration of two people working together intent on creating change - he provides therapy with a friendly, welcoming and professional approach and will work with you tirelessly to get the best out of you to facilitate change. 


No matter what triggers your anger you can be sure that we will do more than just talk about it … we will together to do something about it.


Whatever your experiences are with anger and the triggers you experience, our work together will help you:


  • be more aware of your triggers
  • learn how to rationalise your thoughts and interpretations
  • improve your interactions and communications with others
  • learn how to slow down a busy mind
  • Learn how to calm and relax physical tension


When we have these in place we can safely say that we have been successful in helping you develop effective skills to help you manage your reactions to anger triggers in the most positive ways.



Developing lifetime skills



When you experience traditional talking therapy that’s what you do … talk about your anger!


Each session ends up talking about why you get angry and often focuses on feelings and dwells on the past.


Your therapy sessions with Paul are going to help you develop lifetime skills - not just for the duration of your therapy session.


You literally learn to become your own therapist and along with our online mindfulness course you will constantly have a resource to refer back to.



Our therapy together doesn’t just talk about the reasons why you get angry … you will be helped to do something about it.

Appointments available daytimes, evenings and weekends. Email today to request a callback to discuss how this practical approach to anger management can help you.
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