Relationship and marriage counselling - helping couples re-connect .
Would you like to
get your relationship back on track
and re-connect with each other?
My name is Paul Allenby and I provide friendly and practical marriage and relationship counselling for people who live and work in St. Albans.
I have helped upwards of 1000 couples during the 23 years providing my bespoke style of marriage and relationship therapy.
My approach is practical
All couples experience conflict. For some it’s battles about money; for others it’s about that something is lacking or a pattern of constant arguing.
Regular patterns of upset and conflict can exacerbate tensions or expose hidden cracks in a relationship.
Marriage and relationship therapy really does help. Contrary to what some may believe, it’s not about finger-pointing — who did what or who is to blame.
My relationship and couples therapy provides tools for improving communication and working together to develop positive and sustainable pathways forward.
If you are looking for private marriage and relationship counselling that will be pro-active to meet your personal needs and desired outcomes to re-connect and improve communication please call me anytime.
Introducing a bespoke and personal approach to help improve communication and work together with improved empathy and understanding.
Couples who seek counselling have varying problems and difficulties that need help working through and our joint work together will achieve this.
What Paul often sees however, is that it's not always the surface problems couples experience that are the root problem - it’s how they communicate with each other that may exacerbate the problems.
Poor commutation leads to ineffective listening skills, lack of empathy and understanding and the inability to compromise and seek joint solutions.
Personal and bespoke marriage and relationship counselling with Paul gets its results by following a solution focused approach rather than needlessly dwelling on the past.
You'll experience immense benefit from our practical and bespoke therapy if you...
- Feel disconnected in your relationship?
- Have stopped trying to understanding or empathise with each other’s viewpoints.
- Find it difficult to compromise and find solutions together.
- Recognise that discussions are a little strained and that difficult situations arise due to poor communication.
- Recognise that there is less friendship in your relationship and that you don't find enough time for each other.
- Have noticed that empathy and consideration towards each other is lacking?
And guess what?
Our relationship and marriage therapy sessions are bespoke to your own individual needs as a couple.
Because of the practical and forward focused nature of how our sessions work, you can start learning how to re-connect and improve communication in
easy to follow steps.
Hear what others have to say about their therapy
“Our experience with Paul was great. His relaxed nature and friendly approach helped us through this difficult time in our relationship and thankfully we are still together - and happy.”
G & M Smith
Watford
“We got so much out of our therapy sessions with Paul. Right from the go he helped us to stop focusing on what was wrong in our relationship and helped us focus more on what we wanted to get right.”
J & S Howarth
St. Albans
“We learned so much about each other during our sessions and this helped us to become closer - and to think we were thinking of separating.”
A & C Powers
Stevenage
“Communication was our main problem. We are forever grateful to Paul and how he has helped us. We are now able to have a conversation and consider each others viewpoints.”
B & S Varney
St. Albans
Over 23 years experience
providing marriage and
relationship
therapy -
helping couples
work through their differences and
create positive forward pathways.
Paul Allenby has over 23 years experience providing marriage and relationship therapy. He has diplomas in Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and has completed levels one and two of the Gottman couples therapy certification.
Along with the effective relationship therapy Paul provides, he is also an experienced anger management therapist utilising the best therapeutic approaches including cognitive behavioural therapy.
Paul continues to use his vast expertise and experience and has helped 100's of couples successfully work through the difficulties they face.
“After 23 years working with couples, I’m so delighted to be able to continue to offer my expertise in the form of private marriage and relationship therapy, to help create better understanding of each other, improve communication and work effectively with each other to develop understanding and compromise."
A practical way to help breathe new life in to your relationship.
- Would you like therapy sessions that are free from conflict where you learn how to communicate with each other in a more positive way?
- Would you like to be able to hear each others viewpoints and learn how to work together to be more understanding and compromising to each others needs?
- Would you like to be able to work through difficulties where you feel there is gridlock or lack of compromise?
- Would you like to focus on building a sound relationship rather than needlessly dwelling on the past?
- Would you like to have your therapy sessions with a therapist who offers a friendly and relaxed approach with 23 years experience working with marriage and relationship therapy, has worked with hundreds of couples and follows the proven Gottman Relationship Therapeutic approach?
If you can answer yes to the above, Paul's experience could well be what you're looking for.
Would you like to have an informal chat with Paul to better understand how his private therapy can help you?
Start today for a better tomorrow.
If you'd like to discuss with Paul how the therapy works and how it can have a positive impact for you, please fill in the form below to request a callback.
As soon as he receives your message, Paul will make contact with you via text, WattsApp or email to arrange a free introductory call.
Paul likes to make sure your initial contact can be as personal as possible so he likes to have this initial chat a face to face call with Zoom.
- You can benefit from Paul's 23 years experience as a private therapist
who specialises in practical anger management therapy and marriage and relationship counselling.
- We don't just talk about the problematic areas in your life ... we will work together to do something about them and develop positive ways forward.
- Appointments available days, evenings and weekends - 7 days a week.
- Therapy that works in the present without needlessly dwelling on the past.
Enjoy an informal chat to understand how the therapy can help you.
If you'd like to discuss with Paul how the therapy works and how it can have a positive impact for you, please fill in the form below to request a callback.
Paul likes to make sure your initial contact can be as personal as possible so he likes to provide this initial chat as a face to face call with Zoom.
During this free introductory call we will:
- Get to know each other a little with an informal and laid back chat.
- Discuss in detail what you are seeking therapy for.
- Help you get a clear understanding how the personal and bespoke approach can have positive outcomes for you.
- Help you get an understanding how the therapy sessions are delivered and how you can take advantage of the flexible appointment times Paul has available.
- To discuss the fees based on your actual needs.
- Book your initial consultation if you wish to proceed.
As soon as he receives your email through the form below, Paul will make contact you via text, WattsApp or email to arrange a mutually convenient time for this informal chat.
Please include enough details in the message box below to help Paul understand what you are seeking therapy for.
Telephone: 07584 492254
Appointments available daytimes, evenings and weekends.